Some are better at flirting than others. Others think theyâre better at flirting than others by dishing off comments that playfully tease, but are actually harmful and toxic.
This is known as âneggingâ or as dating and relationship coach Ali Jackson defines it as when someone "deliberately insults you and undermines you as a form of flirting.âThe toxicity of the technique is catching on on TikTok. The hashtag #negging currently has over 2.9 million views.
"It's a form of emotional manipulation disguised as a backhanded compliment or 'constructive' criticism," says Ernesto Lira de la Rosa, a licensed clinical psychologist. "It's meant to leave you questioning if you were insulted or complimented, and it disarms the person to being seduced."
Negging can come in the form of backhanded compliments, comparisons to others, and constructive criticism.Some examples of negging are:
- âYou look good for your ageâ
- âYou look way better than your Instagram picturesâ
- âYouâre not like other girlsâ
- âyouâd like so good if you lost five poundsâ
Although negging usually isnât intentional, it can still be damaging especially if itâs used constantly towards someone in a relationship. So next time you go to make a move, do your best to just give a compliment - a plain and simple compliment.
Source:Yahoo